Prompt via The Life of Dee: Autumnal crafts for toddlers – give us ideas on what our little ones could make this season.
I don’t have children. I’m not crafty. I wasn’t even allowed to do autumn crafts because when you’re raised by Christian parents, they think everything is a gateway to Satan.
So I guess I’ll use this post to talk about a childhood memory. In third grade, there was a craft assignment where the teacher wanted us to write a message on our own decorated tombstone. I don’t remember the details, but I’m assuming she wanted us to write something either silly or positive about ourselves. Since my parents freaked out about that and told the teacher I wouldn’t be participating in that, she offered the alternative of me designing my own pumpkin instead. Parents approved. I was the only pumpkin lol. I don’t even remember how I decorated it or what I wrote.
If I had the chance to design my tombstone…well to be honest, I want my body cremated and I think you can have your cremated ashes used as soil or something and have a tree planted in your name instead. That’s what I want. I want a willow tree and maybe when it grows tall, my memory can be engraved in the trunk as: Leliel – Lover of Darkness – Hater of Bigots.
I’d also like it if, “Be Gay, Do Crime!” was on the trunk somewhere lol. And maybe vague instructions on how to summon me hanging from one of the branches. I’ll have to think about that one…or maybe it should just say, “Step One: Don’t.”
It’s so important to have just one day completely stress free, but that’s not easy…like ever. Considering that many of us have been “grinding” so to speak either in the workforce or in school most of our lives, we can’t just say, “I’m relaxing now,” and boom! You’re chill AF.
That’s not life. That’s not the brain. Giving ourselves a moment to pause and just be has to be a practice, just as grinding the day away was sort of a practice, albeit we were all sort of thrust into that life via social norms.
Many of us know that our calendar is pagan. Depending on your perspective, you probably have noticed nordic, roman, and other influences. Sunday and “Moon”day start our week and I heard that those are the days that should really be your “weekend” because Sunday is for energizing yourself and Monday should be to nurture yourself since those are the classic associations with the sun and the moon. I have to admit, I’ve been living my weeks like this for most of this year and it’s been nice. Though I do wish most of my days could be as relaxing as today was. Like I said, calming ourselves is a practice. Sometimes the momentum of Tuesday through the rest of the week take me on a wild ride with Thursday being my new hump day and Saturday being my Friday. I do my best to reflect on how my week went on Saturdays so I can decide what is and isn’t working. Honestly, I don’t think I catch everything. The “grind” mentality is really hard to squash. I’m sure some people will say they like having that sort of grind-drive each day, but as someone who is neurodivergent and anxiety-ridden sometimes, the grind is overstimulating and burnout triggers depressive symptoms. I hate it.
At least today was wonderful. I’m proud of myself.
Also, I’m on the fence about completing the autumn post challenge lol…It’s not as fun as I thought it was.
Decorate your house for Autumn/Halloween – show us pics of your decor.
Well what a coincidence. I was at the Spirit Halloween store recently looking for a fleece throw, but I couldn’t find any. Instead I found a bird’s skull and an iron key I want to use as a door knocker for decor and blogging purposes because I was excited to share what I got. Anyway, the pursuit of the throw went on. Hot Topic had plenty of anime throws and I wanted none of them (I’m very picky with anime merch). Then I went to Spencers and voila! A throw that I could live with was there. It has a print of the major arcana The Moon on one side and this beautiful moon and star design on the other. I also got a seated/back pillow to help me with working at home. It’s been doing wonders for my back so far.
And I guess I might as well admit that the midst of decor shopping involved some impulsive purchases, live gloves, nails, socks, and a single magnet.
Prompt: How to make your home cosy this Autumn – share with us what we can do to transition our home from cool Summer to warm Autumn. Prompts by The Life of Dee.
For me, it’s about comfort and ambience. Blankets, cardigans, hoodies, and sweaters are a must. Candles have to be the right size so they last for the season. For smells, whether it be candles, incense, or oils, my favorites are the earthiest, like cypress and cedar wood, but I also like lavender, sandalwood, amber, vanilla, frankincense, blood orange, and apple/pumpkin spice whatever (which I think I like more as a scent than I do a drink).
To add to the cozy, a good amount of LoFi playlists will do the trick. Here’s a Halloween one I found the other day.
Is this another way of saying, “Am I a workaholic?” I’m not sure. I do think it’s weird that I don’t feel well when I’m not working in a stressful environment or that I’m not really working if I’m not stressed. That’s the kind of mentality the dark academia fandom bonds over, actually. It’s a weird, toxic thing.
I did a tarot reading on this and it turns out that the normalization of burnout and stress is very hard to decondition yourself from (I know that’s not very profound, but it just hit me this sh*t is deeper than I thought…). Abandoning calm and comfort while working is one of those things we as a society just decided to agree on? I was even advised to make sure I work at a desk so it feels like work (since the majority of my work is done at home) and that my bed should be for rest only… Nah. I love working in bed. I love that I can do my studies and my writing in the most comfortable place in my home. I’m only up and about for photoshoots and music recording. Shouldn’t that be enough? Does professionalism and career building have to be a suffocating experience? Does the daily grind really benefit me if I feel worthless and depressed when I’m not working myself to death? I’m pretty sure we each have our own work-life balance that works best for us, but sometimes mine feels…I honestly don’t know how to describe it.
I think the rigidity of Western work ethic is very unsettling. Why does it thrive on compounding on societal pressures? Does it also thrive on brainwashing me into thinking what I do will never be enough? How dumb… How scary…
Local events this Autumn – tell us what is going on in your area this Autumn. Post prompt via The Life of Dee.
I don’t really participate in the local events like getting pumpkins and Oktoberfest. I celebrate the fall equinox and Samhain, also it’ll be my first time observing the Halloween Rite to Eurynomous & Baalberith as a novice demonolater. I might be going to a holistic fair in November.
The days are finally cool. I can sit outside at dusk and watch overcast clouds glide by, blocking the harshness of the sun. There’s a gloom that covers us with shorter days and longer nights. I don’t understand those who dislike that gloom; for me, it’s pure comfort. That gloom demands calm. It beckons us to slow down after all the activity from summer.
Autumn is often an analogy of releasing or dying. The changing colors of the leaves along with the crinkle they make under our feet are a subtle “memento mori”. I get to take this moment of rest to reflect on eternal rest. Birdsong is somber, sweet, and soft, moving with crisp air and deep sighs of relief. It’s beautiful to let go, to rest. I don’t know why I’m one of those who rarely feels restful during the summer; it could be the culture, I guess. I just know when summer ends, there’s a winding down. School semesters begin and encourage focus while work cultures prepare for holidays. Whether it be culture or metaphor, preparedness and focus take hold and that often requires calm to be efficient.
What I love most about autumn is how the change in the air invokes a sense of other realms coming closer simply because this part of the world grows darker, colder, and how so many beliefs and traditions are experienced at once. Autumn is a season of wonder that questions the known and unknown. This scares a lot of people, which could be why fear is more prominent this time of year, but I will always treasure this wonder, this calm bliss.
If all our coffins were as cozy as the blankets and sweaters we wrap ourselves in and death was as warm as a good cup of coffee or tea, people wouldn’t worry so much about the inevitable.
I’m following this blog post list by The Life of Dee because I miss blogging. Let’s see if I can do this every day for October.
Day 1: Ultimate cosy night in – what are the essentials for having a cosy night in?
Before answering, just need to say I had no idea cozy was spelled with an “s” in the UK lol. Weird.
My coziest nights are with a cup of lavender/chamomile tea with honey, french vanilla cream, and a few drops of Valerian Poppy Supreme, an herbal supplement made by Gaia Herbs that’s a complete anxiety extinguisher for me. Sometimes I’ll dip oatmeal cookies in the tea. I like curling up in bed with several blankets and my stuffed baby snow owl (his name is Algernon). If I’m not watching a reality show or drama with a supernatural twist, I’m having a movie marathon of psychological thrillers. Sometimes I’ll watch GameGrumps if I need to laugh. If I’m not in the mood to watch anything, I’m reading or listening to Parcast podcasts (Cults is my favorite), an audiobook, something on Chilling Tales for Dark Nights, or a podcast about writers talking about writing, science, philosophy, or goth subculture shit. I also like listening to dark/heavy ambience, lofi, fantasy ambience, classical music, dark academia playlists, forest/nature ambience, video game soundtracks, or a good thunderstorm. I like having my lava lamp on during the night and like to light incense or use my aroma diffuser (I like cypress, lavender, and cedarwood). Sometimes I’ll smoke mugwort and rose petals (also good for anxiety).